Elizabeth Anne VanderPutten - A Death in our Family


Edward J. Smith

SMITH-Edward J., 85, of West Babylon, on January 9, 2005. WWII Army Officer Veteran. Retired NY State supervising bank examiner. Beloved husband of Dorothy. Loving father of Patricia. Cherished father-in-law of John. Devoted "Pa" of Dawn Soriano and her husband Basil and Jill Bonner and her husband Kevin. Caring great grandfather of Carole-Anne, Luke, Jonathan and Aurora. Friends may visit today and Tuesday 2-4:30 and 7-9:30PM at the Claude R. Boyd-Spencer Funeral Home, 448 West Main St., Babylon. Funeral Mass, Wednesday 10AM at Our Lady of Grace RC Church, West Babylon. Interment, Calverton National Cemetery, Calverton, LI. In lieu of flowers, donations appreciated to the Lupus Alliance, 2255 Centre Ave., Bellmore, NY 11710. 

Published in Newsday on 1/10/2005.


My Grandfather Died by Jill VanderPutten Bonner  
My grandfather (Pa), mom's father, died in his sleep tonight around 9:30pm. He has been feeling a little under the weather from the virus that has been going around, but was looking well when Dad and I were with him this afternoon.

He went to sleep at around 9pm and when my grandmother went to check on him he was already dead. Dad and Mom will be going to the funeral home tomorrow morning to make the arrangements and I will be sure to post them as soon as I get them. Mom is taking it very hard, and my grandmother I think is still in shock.

Jill VanderPutten Bonner
Sun, 9 Jan 2005 03:20:53 EST

I have some information on the funeral arrangements for my grandfather. If anyone has any questions, please call me at 631-587-8929, or you can call dad at 516-798-4281. The obituary will be in tomorrows Newsday, and it does ask that in lieu of flowers to please make donations in Edward Smith's name to the Lupus Alliance of America 2255 Centre Avenue, Bellmore, NY 14710.

Claude R. Boyd Spencer Funeral Home 
448 West Main Street 
Babylon, NY 11702 

The viewing's are on Monday and Tuesday from 2-4:30pm and 7-9:30pm. the funeral is on Wednesday at Our Lady of Grace Church in West Babylon at 10am, with burial afterwards at Calverton Cemetery. Everyone is invited back to mom's and dad's house after the burial.

Jill VanderPutten Bonner
Sun, 9 Jan 2005 17:05

Just a note to all who came last night, thank you so much. It meant a lot to mom and my grandmother. It is such a hard thing to go through, but to have so many people around you makes it a little easier.

Thank you.

Jill VanderPutten Bonner
Sun, 11 Jan 2005 12:01

Again, just a thank you to all for coming to say goodbye to Pa. Mom and my grandmother really needed to have people around them and see how much he had meant to so many people. 

Please pass on to Aunt Peggy that mom and Nannie sprinkled the Irish holy water that you gave them on Pa`s coffin at Calverton. Mom was very thankful to you for it, and wanted you to know how much it meant to her. 

Also, thank you to those that have sent donations in Pa`s name to the lupus alliance. That is what he would have wanted and he would have appreciated it very much. 

Thank you. 

Thu, 13 Jan 2005

Thoughts, John Richard (JR) VanderPutten

I know how much Ed meant to you and Pat. But so much would be involved in getting me to Babylon on Wednesday. And I think it would take too much out of me to try a long day like that. Please give my sympathy and apology to Pat. 

I always looked forward to meeting Ed at your family parties. There are not many left of my generation.

Also my sympathy goes to Dot. It will be a lonely life for her.

January 9, 2005

Edward J. Smith,  
Thanksgiving, 2004

Fond Memories of Pa by Dawn and Jill and Pat 

"Pa" always gave his grandchildren whatever they wanted. They knew if there was a gift they wanted they could get him to give it to them. They also knew you had to behave with him as well. There was a time when his granddaughters Dawn and Jill were sleeping over and they were fighting with each other in the bed. Finally, Pa had had enough, and got up in his pajamas and bathrobe, and threatened to take Jill home right then and there for misbehaving. But Jill, said " Pa, your in your PJ`s you'll get arrested".

Pa always loved to help the girls catch what they called happy toads in the backyard of the valley stream house, and lizards at the Florida condo. He was always letting the girls do things that they weren't supposed to, like one time in Florida he taught Jill how to pump gas in the car while wearing her Easter Sunday dress. When they would go to carvel to get ice cream cones, Jill would always end up dropping her cone, and Pa would always end up giving her his so she wouldn't cry. 

When they used to go to their favorite restaurant "Cocos" Jill and Dawn would always pretend that they couldn't finish their sundaes and would always offer them to Pa as a joke, they had actually finished the sundaes, but Pa would always pretend to fall for it and act surprised when they handed him the empty sundae bowls. The girls would have their laugh, although everyone else at the table including Pa knew it was coming. 

Pa taught the girls how to fish in Florida, and would always go in the pool with them and play, even though he didn't know how to swim. 

Every year Pat and John and the kids would go on vacation with Pa and Nannie to places like New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, Adirondacks and of course to Florida. They loved their trips together. They have so many fond memories of the time they spent traveling in the car and playing auto bingo and other games. 

Pa was always there for his great grandchildren as well. When Carole-Anne their oldest arrived, Pa was always there to come by and bring groceries and diapers, and whenever Carole-Anne needed something he would always get it for her. He loved watching her grow up and participating in all of her milestones. They were very close. Carole-Anne would call them up every week to talk, tell them about her report card and make arrangements to bring her friends over to the pool the way Dawn and Jill had done when they were kids. 

He was always so happy and sometimes surprised to be able to see her grow up into the young lady that she is today. In the past months he was so happy with her school work, and couldn't wait to see what college she was going to get into. He had been recently talking about her getting her driver’s license and how he never thought he would be able to see so much of her life, let alone be such a big part of it. How happy he was to have helped her grow up. 

She made him very proud, As did Luke, and Jonathan and Aurora, his three other great grandchildren. He loved taking them to the golf course and helping them drive and putt. He loved taking them to the pond to feed the ducks, and to the pool to swim. They all made him smile, they were his life. 

Aurora and Jonathan loved to go to Wendy’s for lunch with Nanny and Pa. It was always a special treat. They each had special stuffed animals in Pa’s car to play with on the way. Pa would always give them an allowance and get some treats. 

They also had special toys to play with at Pa’s and Nannie’s apartment, especially a little dog that did back flips on the table. Everything they did with Pa was very special.

Luke will especially miss Pa’s weekly visits to his house where he would drop off his and Carole-Anne's favorite goodies to eat as well as their allowances. Luke also went for lunch at Wendy’s with Nannie and Pa and loved the kids toys they would have in the kids meals. 

Whenever Luke went to Nannie and Pa’s apartment, he loved to play with the fire engine and helicopter that was kept there for the children to play with. Pa always took Carole-Anne and Luke to PETCO where they would watch and play with the animals.

Pat (Smith) Vander Putten
Jill (Vander Putten) Bonner
Dawn (Vander Putten) Soriano
January 13, 2005